More transguys who don’t pass for cis, and who maybe don’t want to pass as cis.
More transguys who are proud of being effeminate and are still men.
More transguys that aren’t buff muscleheads or gamers, who don’t always enjoy stereotypically “male” things.
More transguys who like to wear dresses.
More transguys who don’t get hysterectomies/oophorectomies, and are proud to be men who can still bear children.
More transguys who don’t have full penises, because fuck, phalloplasties are expensive, and a very invasive medical procedure, and did you know you have to implant pumps in order to get an erection? Those things can potentially be a cause for infection, and require more invasive, expensive surgery a decade down the road to replace them because they start degrading. Plus there’s a risk that you won’t end up nerves growing into it, and there are just so many things that can still go wrong, even with our advancements in technology.
More transguys who aren’t on hormones, for various reasons. Either because they can’t take testosterone for medical reasons, or financial reasons, or because they just don’t want to.
More gay, bi, pan, asexual transguys, because men aren’t all sex-crazed machines, be they cis or trans.
More transguys getting their periods. More transguys being okay with that, and more transguys who are completely devastated by it, because it’s a personal reaction and each person can feel however they want about the reminder of what their body is doing and have their own reactions to the monthly fluctuations in hormones, no matter if their periods are painful or not.
More feminist transguys, because ladies have to put up with a lot of shit, and they know from firsthand experience, and damnit, we need to stop this.
More transguys with high voices and babyfaces.
More short transguys, and tansguys with small feet, who have a hard time finding clothes/shoes in their sizes, because no one makes them that small.
Basically, I don’t think I’ve ever seen any transguy in media, and therefore we have no role models to look up to. Or else we have to find our own. And even then, it’s so hard, and many that get media attention aren’t the ones that always look like we want to. Bodybuilders and stereotypically “hot” actors and porn stars are all good, but they aren’t variety. We need more transguys in media and the news, because it’s so hard to think anything positive about yourself when you’re stuck in the clutches of dysphoria and you can’t even find anyone to look up to who’s either going through your same problems, or has gotten past those problems and is proof that you can get where you want to be.
also,more curvy and fat trans guys who need to shop in women’s clothing sections because they don’t have clothes that can accomodate curvy men and short, fatter trans men.
When a guy says he doesn’t deserve you, agree with him.
When a guy says you’re so much better than him, tell him that you know.
When he puts himself down in an attempt to get you to willingly lower yourself, don’t take the bait.
if ya man got low self esteem and says this shit it doesn’t mean he’s trying to get u to lower urself??? u can just say “yea bae u are good enough I’m the shit and u are too” like why u gotta be a dick to him
When a guy says he doesn’t deserve you, say instead, “baby, don’t be silly, of course you do.”
When a guy says you’re so much better than him, tell him he’s being too hard on himself, and that he has virtues, too.
Basically, when a man tries to lower himself to the status of dirt, in an attempt to proclaim love for you, be sure you’re there to reassure him that he is loved, that he matters, to both you and the rest of the world.
Don’t let boys/men feel like shit, especially when they’re closest to you.
Do you ever hate someone so much that everything, literally, E V E R Y T H I N G they do infuriates you? Every word, every breath, every movement, it just makes you want to punch them in the throat? You just wish the absolute worst upon them and every time you see them your blood boils.
Also remember that bloggers aren’t mental health professionals.
Unless a person is trained and understands how to deal with mental health don’t put the pressure on them to do so because 1. It’s incredibly inconsiderate to their own mental health 2. They probably don’t know what the answer is / what to do. So don’t do that.
Seek professional help
Call a hotline
Don’t send an anonymous message to a blogger you follow asking them to save your life
Imagine everyone who sends you anon hate as a 12 year old superwehrolock fan who didn’t get a good breakfast and can’t find any good apps for their phone. The neighborhood kid across the street doesn’t like them as anything more than a friend, and they are anxious about the 7th grade and what new challenges it will bring.
I cried at this scene. It was unexpected and out of the blue, and I bawled my eyes out. Never have I seen such a display of a queer relationship on a children’s cartoon. One that was treated as normal, one no one saw as offensive or wrong.
Two female coded characters who were in love, who argued like any couple does, who have their differences but make up in the end.
All of the young queer kids watching Steven Universe will see Ruby and Sapphire and know that how they feel is okay, that who they are is okay. It will do so much good for them to see the characters that they love are like them.
Do not call Ruby and Sapphire ‘just friends’ or ‘gal pals’. Do not make it out that Ruby is male just to call the relationship is straight.
Do not take characters like Ruby and Sapphire away from queer kids.
me in 6th grade: Did he just say the f word? Luckily, I, an intellectual, don’t use that type of immature language…
me now: wHAT th3 fucKk look at this fuckign meme!! im cryiNG lma0 !!! see u hoes later !!!
STEP TWO: Right click the word block. STEP THREE: Click “View Selection Source” STEP FOUR: Something like this should pop up: Highlight the “IP” (the blacked out part). STEP FIVE: Copy the IP address and paste it to this website: http://whatismyipaddress.com/ip-lookup Paste the IP address into there, press enter or “Lookup IP Address” and all the information should come up.
To the trans kids starting their name change: It’s hard. You will refer to yourself as your deadname. You might even forget your new name once or twice. You will hate that you still respond to your deadname, and you won’t be sure what to write down on the top of your school papers. Even when you leave your old name behind, you may find yourself in a weird gray area where both names are equally yours and equally not, and you’re not sure what to respond to. But please don’t worry. Because one night in a dream you will call yourself by the name you chose, and when you wake up you will realize that your subconscious has accepted this change, and that even in sleep you are who you want to be.
Hang in there.
