dickslapthestate:

distressedmeowing:

dickslapthestate:

kimm-the-demon:

I refuse to teach my future daughters how to avoid being raped. Instead, I’ll teach my future sons that rape is not okay.

Your daughter isn’t any less likely to be a rapist and your son still needs to be aware of how to avoid rape.  Here’s what the CDC says:

In the past 12 months, 1.1% of men (or 1.2 million) were “made to penetrate”.  That is to say they were forced to have sex with someone against their will.  The CDC doesn’t call it rape, but that’s what it is.  Now we look at the numbers for women:

Again, within the past 12 months 1.1% (or 1.2 million) were raped. So the rate of women being raped was equal to that of men who reported being made to penetrate someone.

Here’s a meta-analysis that examined 5 national surveys to look at male victimization:

We assessed 12-month prevalence and incidence data on sexual victimization in 5 federal surveys that the Bureau of Justice Statistics, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and the Federal Bureau of Investigation conducted independently in 2010 through 2012. We used these data to examine the prevailing assumption that men rarely experience sexual victimization. We concluded that federal surveys detect a high prevalence of sexual victimization among men—in many circumstances similar to the prevalence found among women.

This study had 7k+ participants from around the globe and looked at college aged men and women in relationships and found that 3% of men and 2.3% of women reported forced sex from their current or previous partner.

In relationships, women tend to exhibit as many violent and controlling tendencies as men do.  

There’s also plenty of data that shows even male rapists are more likely to have histories of abuse at the hands of women. So while we’re teaching boys not to rape, we should also be teaching girls not to abuse their children when they grow up:

Approximately 40 percent of child victims were maltreated by their mothers acting alone; another 18.3 percent were maltreated by their fathers acting alone; 17.3 percent were abused by both parents (USDHHS, 2007).

And feminists wonder why people think they’re sexist.

What about the numbers in the ‘Lifetime’ column, where the raw numbers and weighted percentages are higher across the board for women than for men?

The further back you go, the less accurate the estimation is going to be. People’s memories, even of traumatic events can be spotty and we fill in the blanks in our mind when we forget details. What we “remember” becomes less reliable the further back we go. I’ve heard some state that even 12 months isn’t the optimal period of time to look at and that 4 or 6 month rates are better.

If you look at the CDC lifetime rates, the rate for men doesn’t even make sense. It is less than 5 times the yearly rate which seems highly unlikely. Why would rape be at such a high yearly rate yet so comparatively low for the lifetime rate? Was rape just high for the past year when we happened to study it and dropped substantially in the years past? That really doesn’t seem likely. We haven’t been studying the men’s rate of made to penetrate very long so the data is less robust going back further than last year.

You also have to keep in mind what we’re trying to demonstrate by quoting this data. The lifetime rate would include rapes of women 20, 30, 40, etc years ago. The rate of rape has been going down for decades and the risk of women decades back is not the issue we’re trying to solve. We’re trying to determine the need to pay attention to the rape of men (and women) today. Who needs shelters? That sort of thing. It makes a whole lot more sense to see what the past year’s risk is for both genders since that’s a better indicator of the risk faced today.