This is an actual message I was just sent on grindr.
I understand that there are some that have experimented with their sexuality at a very young age and have turned out fine, and I’m not trying to make generalizations.
However, legally, age of consent in certain areas exists for a reason.
As a younger teenager, I turned to sex as a form of making up for physical affection as well as a form of self harm. I also had heard stories of all of these guys having sex by 14 or 15 and wanted to see what it was all about.
It became expected of me, and I began coupling my compulsive sex with substance abuse for nearly 2 years straight to deal with a lot of deeper internal issues (as sex addiction usually implies).
I was abused and taken advantage of physically/sexually on more that one occasion.
It’s a miracle that throughout that time, I didn’t develop any sexually transmitted diseases, especially because of how Texas’ Sex Education system works (abstinence only, cover of diseases transmitted through vaginal sex, no oral, anal, or contraceptive coverage of any kind).
All of my advice comes from personal experience, and, factually, I do have something to add:
LGBT men (especially young gay and trans men), experience the highest rate of eating disorders among the male demographic. As a general whole, queer men are EXPECTED to have as much sex as possible with as many muscled bodies as they can.
This is why bears, twinks, and other subsets of the gay culture are more shamed for things they do that aren’t actively participating in their assigned sexual roles.
The hypersexuality of the queer community is extremely harmful to younger people. It’s our job to stop this stigma and educate people before it fucks them over.this is fucking iMPORTANT
This is so real.
